POST NURSING BOOBS

Hi all,

Thanks for your concerns about my son. He is very OK; we thank God.

I had my 3 kids in less than 4 years and i have literally been breasting for 4 years. I got pregnant with my second when my first was just 5 months old so i had to continue breast feeding which i did till i had the baby. Same happened when i was pregnant with my third i breast fed my daughter all through.

If my boobs could become animated for a minute i am sure it has a lot to say. Like "when will i rest and do u know what i will look like after all these?" I have wondered about that myself. I once considered my boobs my best asset until i started nursing. Yes it is much fuller when u are nursing but i remember i stopped my daughter for about 2 weeks and i will never forget what was left of it. It was so flat and it had lost all its elasticity. I almost cried coz my hubby and i are still young and very much sexually active. For almost 4 years, my hubby hasn't even gone there coz he feels it is for the kids. I am so sorry for him coz he'll really be disappointed when i stop breastfeeding.

I know its not my fault. I will do it all over again if i have to but i really don't want to lose the one thing that once made me feel so good about myself. I have armed myself with padded bras but that is just ostentatious coz i know what i see without them. My hubby is very sweet and says it doesn't matter but as a woman, i know men are moved by what they see. I even have friends who won't be intimate with their hubbies without the lights off or their bras on.

I guess we are both making sacrifices for having kids. I my body and him...

Cheers

A TRAUMATIC EXPERIENCE - GOD'S FAITHFULNESS

Hi all,

Hope you all had a wonderful Easter celebration. I just want to use this medium to thank God for his faithfulness in my life. My hubby and i had the most traumatic experience of our lives last night. My two toddlers share a room and have a bunk bed. The top bed is like a crib; very well protected so we know it is safe. My eldest son who is three sleeps at the top bed while my daughter 2, sleeps below. We put the kids to bed around 7.45pm last night and about 15 minutes later we could still hear them chatting. My hubby actually went downstairs to tell them to go to sleep.

We then settled in to watch Big Brother9(TV show). We suddenly heard a big thud like something fell. I was alarmed and told my hubby to check it out. I immediately heard my hubby screaming my son's name and he wasn't responding. I honestly do not know how i got down the stairs. I was screaming hysterically coz i couldn't hear my son. I got to his room and saw him laying flat on his back barely moving and whimpering. He had apparently fallen off his bed while trying to take his soft toy from his sister. It all looked like a scene in a movie. It was like i was not there and it wasn't real. He looked contorted and his jaw looked broken. I felt dead and it was like the blood in my veins frooze. My hubby's voice snapped me out of my trance, screaming "call 911, call 911".

I dialed 911 but could barely express myself. I was just too hysterical. My hubby had to finish the call. The medics came like 10 minutes later but it felt like a million hours later. By then my son was responding more to us and he didn't look that bad anymore. Our main concern was that he could have sustained an internal injury but after all the tests ran on him it was determined he was ok. We were told to keep and eye on him for about an hour and they told us signs to watch out for.

My son later went to bed with me. I could barely sleep all night. I just kept on watching him and thanking God for keeping him safe. It could have been worse. I now have a renewed appreciation for parents coping with kids with disabilities, severe accidents, etc. May God give them the fortitude to go on.

My son is doing well and back to his normal self. I really thank God

Cheers

PLATONIC FRIENDS

Hey all,

This is an interesting topic and i need your opinions . It's this thing about ex-lovers or friends of our spouses/partners. Is it ideal to keep a relationship with one's ex even if they too are married? And what about platonic friends? I know we all had platonic friends of the opposite sex before we got married. Do we do away with those liaisons after getting married especially if they aren't approved by our partners?

I had a few male friends before i got married. My hubby didn't approve of most of them while we were dating but i still consorted with some of them. After marriage though, i cut off friendships with the opposite sex out of respect for my hubby and my marriage. I just didn't see the point in carrying on platonic friendships with other guys. For one i am married, secondly what was there to talk about really? And thirdly most of them are married as well and i put myself in their wives' shoes. Would i like my hubby clinging on to female friends from his past(whether platonic or not)?

I consider myself pretty secure in my marriage coz after my hubby and i got married he moved to Canada before me and i joined him almost 2 yrs later. That period of separation was the most insecure i have been in my life. My hubby was in a foreign land with a bevy of exotic women why won't i be scared? Anyway he kept his word and vows and didn't rest until we were together so i think i have earned a right to be secured in my marriage.

Still, i don't subscribe to men keeping female friends especially when these friends are not married. My hubby has a few from college. I know them coz we were in college together. He doesn't see any harm in carrying on friendships with them but i do. I gave up my friends out of respect for my marriage but it seems men don't see it the same way. What do you think?

Cheers

OVERREACTING OR NOT?

Hi all,

My 3 yr old son is in his cousin's bridal train and the wedding is taking place in Texas. He is scheduled to travel with my hubby at the end of the month. I can't attend coz the date clashes with a course i am taking. I have been feeling so despondent coz this is the first time he will be away from me for more than 2 hours.

Initially i didn't want him to go but my hubby was upset coz i was implying he couldn't take care of his son. That wasn't my intention at all. Men don't understand the bond between a mother and a child. I just know no one can take care of him like i would. Anyway after much ado, i have finally given my blessing but i am still having sleepless nights about the trip.

I don't know if this a normal reaction. A part of me feels i am overreacting but my motherly instincts tell me i am on point. This experience has made me wonder how i would react to bigger issues and decisions in my son's life like dating, college and eventually marriage. Right now i am acting so protective even though his dad is taking him. I have been going over their itinerary in Texas like I'm studying for my PHD and making fastidious notes on how to care for our son. My hubby has been taking my anxiety in stride but i know he'll soon lose his patience. My hubby is a great dad. He gives the kids baths, feeds them, puts them to bed, etc. I really shouldn't be worried but i just can't help myself.

I guess subconsciously i am also envious of my hubby being there to see our little man in a bridal train and i won't. I am jealous coz i won't be there to share that experience with him. God help me coz i can't help myself. I have been hoping the days go slow so that day would still be far away but i know it is inevitable.

My hubby says i should enjoy the one week without all three kids. I know the stress would be less but I'll miss my boy. Is this a normal reaction or am i overreacting?

Cheers

CONTRACEPTIVES AND WEIGHT GAIN

Hi all,

I wrote some time back that i have been battling to lose 25 pounds. The battle has not been easy. I actually lost a few inches here and there but the weight numbers have refused to budge. I have been so frustrated. I exercise religiously, i try to eat right(though i munch on my kids' cookies once in a while) but i feel i should have lost at least a pound by now.

Anyway i had an appointment for my Depo shot(contraceptive) yesterday. I complained about my weight to my doctor and he said it's the contraceptive(i knew that before but i thought it would be different for me). He explained that its not easy to lose weight while on the injection coz of the hormones in it. I wasn't happy about that but i don't want to have another baby(three is enough for me). I hear the pills do the same too so that is not an alternative. I just want to lose 25 pounds. i have tried starving but it's foolhardy especially coz I'm breastfeeding. Maybe i should settle for abstinence-even though part of my effort to lose weight is to to be more attractive to my hubby. That is so ironic.

I actually used the IUD after my second child and still got pregnant with my third so i guess i only have 3 choices -eat much less, get fat or get pregnant(which will make me fat). If it comes to it i choose the first. It's a sacrifice i will make for my well being so i can live long and be more active in my children's' lives. It's a tough call coz i love food but what can i do?

So is anyone experiencing the same problem?

Cheers

TRENDY AND ELEGANT LOOKS

Hi all,

It's almost summer and i know most women are all about the trends for the season. When it comes to dressing up, a rule of thumb for me is to wear what best flatters my features and not what is necessarily in style. As a mother of three and i am sure most mothers have this issue i find that no matter what i have tried i still have that bulge in my tommy. I am just a regular mum and not a celebrity so i don't have a personal trainer or the motivation to go under the knife so i have learnt to manage the excess skin around my tommy by wearing clothes that camouflage that area but yet trendy.

Most women do not want to give up those skimpy , tommy baring, figure hugging clothes coz they feel that is what makes them sexy and more desirable to their partners. Truth is women look trashy when they force themselves into undersized clothes or trendy styles that just don't fit their body types.

It's important for us to know our body types, accept our flaws and work with it. I am not a fashion expert but i have showcased some new trends that would look good on any body type and help understate those problem areas(especially the bulging tummy).


This dotted meshed crossover top is very cute and trendy. It can be worn by almost every body type and will definitely hide that big tummy. This top is by Suzy Shier(Canadian) and comes in three colors.


Who says bold prints don't flatter bigger women. Well i don't. This dress is simple and nice. The band just beneath the burst helps camouflage those problem areas. Also by Suzy Shier



This caftan top is simply cool. It can go on Jeans, Capris pants and even shorts. It also comes in white and you can get it at Old Navy.com



Talk about bringing sexy back, this tube dress does it for mum's who feel they have lost it. It's simple yet sexy and it won't exaggerate those flaws we worry about. It comes in various bright colors also at Old Navy.com


This is my favourite dress of the bunch. It looks just like a maternity dress but it isn't. For me my main problem area is my tommy so this works perfectly for me. You can spice this dress up with any colour of accessory. It's gorgeous. Also at Old Navy.com

O HAPPY DAY

Hi all,


How was your weekend? Mine was long coz i was waiting for my hubby to come home. He had been away from home for ten days but it felt like forever. I really missed him and had a renewed recognition for his help around the house.

Anyway he finally came on Sunday night-close to midnight. I was so elated to have him home. I was like

It felt like we were apart for years and we were both so ecstatic to see each other . He was tired from all the travelling but i made sure he was pampered. I gave him a nice meal and he immediately felt invigorated(we needed that vigor).

Anyway after all the good stuff, we went to bed or should i say he went to bed. I couldn't sleep coz my darling hubby was snoring thunderously. I tossed and turned forever. I was so restless. I was like

The euphoria of having him home almost faded away at that point but i quickly realised it was a sacrifice worth making for a wonderful man.

Have a good week.

Cheers

THE POWER OF WORDS

Hi all,

I have not blogged in a while coz i have been so tied up with my kids. My hubby has been away for like a week now so its been really hectic for me. I have been so enervated and lonely. Yes i have my kids and i love them to death but what conversation can i have with toddlers? I really miss my hubby. It is even harder for me coz i don't have my family around me. I got out a couple of times but it's not easy going out with three kids in winter.

My hubby has been the one taking the flak for my exasperation. Each time he calls i am so cold and brusque. I find every excuse to pick a fight but he has actually done well putting up with all of it.

I really don't mean to be mean but he calls at the wrong time which by the way is all the time. I guess he is the only one i can take it out on coz i know he understands first hand how hard it is to take care of three young kids alone. Anyway, my day started as usual, with screaming kids and a crying baby. I was ready for another long day but all that changed when i checked my email. My hubby had sent me the most romantic note ever. It was short but it was all i needed to carry on. I have sucked it all up coz i know i have a man who loves me and appreciates all i do.

I am so blithe and i feel like a teenager in love for the first time. That is the power of words. I needed to hear those words in his note and it really came at the right time. When someone in your life is down or overwhelmed with life's troubles, do not fail to lend a few nice words. Trust me it helps.

Cheers