WOMEN I ADMIRE

Hi all,

As a woman, i am blithe when i see other women succeed in their endeavours. Be it as wives, mothers, professionals etc. It just makes me so proud to be a woman. Most people have people they look up to like mentors or role models. For me i have neither. I just admire the following women and they inspire me in different ways.

JADA PINKETT SMITH
Now this is one fine sister. She is an embodiment of beauty,talent, charisma and strength. I admire her so much for her ability to joggle it all. A thriving career and one of the most successful marriages in Hollywood. Jada Has managed to keep her marriage of ten years steamier than ever. It is no secret that this woman is the rock of her marriage and Hollywood's greatest step mum.

DR. DORA AKUNYILI
Dr. Akunyili is the revered Director General of National Agency for Food and Drug Administration and Control (NAFDAC) in Nigeria. Her assertive and astute character has finally brought some sanity to NAFDAC. Despite numerous threats and even assassination attempts, this amazon has refused to be perturbed and continues to implement policies that eradicates bogus drugs from the Nigerian market. Now this is one force to be reckoned with in Nigeria today and for years to come.



MO'NIQUE
Now whats not to admire? This is one sister that has refused to budge to the battle of the bulge. Mo'nique is a woman who knows what she wants. In spite of being in a profession where thin is in , she has refused to conform to those standards. She has carved a niche for herself in the entertainment industry and has proved that big is beautiful. Mo'nique continues to inspire plus size women all over the world.

JOKE SILVA
Joke Silva is a household name in Nigeria. She is one of the the most talented and eloquent women Nigeria has produced. I admire her carriage and the respect she commands as an actress. She is also a devoted wife and mother who has managed to have a balance in her life.





OPRAH WINFREY
Do I really need to say anything? I love this woman so much. She makes me dream big dreams and know for sure they could come true. From humble beginnings, Miss Winfrey has become the biggest name in talk show. Sitting atop a multi-billion conglomerate, her benevolence is beyond words. She is one of the most selfless and humble people i know.

MOTHERHOOD ADVICE

Hi all,

Well, i have been there done that when it comes to motherhood. This site i found is for new mums. I totally agree with the advice. I am sure you mums to be or new mums will find it very helpful. A rule of thumb for me when it comes to motherhood is that i take all the advice i can get from people with actual experience of parenting. I hope you enjoy the site.

Cheers

9 Truths About Motherhood - Parenting.com

WORDS I HATE

Hi all,

It's been a very hectic morning for me as usual. Plus it's so cold and windy i can't even go to the mall to window shop. My son had to miss school too because of the weather so i am home alone with all my kids. By the way my hubby has been out on a job for 4 days. He works in the oil and gas industry. It sucks to be all alone but the bucks is good so i can't complain too much. I can't wait for him to come home.

Now let me tell you about 2 words i hate so much . My daughter is turning 2 on Tuesday (hey) and is in the "terrible 2s phase" (not that they ever grow out of it) and my oldest son is 3 and well in the "more terrible 3s phase. They fight over every single thing including space and my attention . What irks me the most is that these fights start with the word "Mine". OMG! I hate this word so much my stomach churns each time i hear it. Mine!!! Mine!!Mine! all the time. Can't they just say something else like " lets take turns, lets not fight so mummy can have some peace". I wish!

As soon as they get up in the morning the first thing they do is to grab my leg and scream Mine; as in mum is Mine. This goes on and on the whole day and i can bet they say "Mine" like a zillion times.

The other word is "No". I take the blame for this one because as a mum the one name we call our kids is No. As in No don't touch that, No don't do that, No don't go there, etc. So my kids got that word from me. All i hear is "No Patrice its mine", "No sean, No!!! No!! No!. I wish the word No can be used in this context... No Patrice don't scream so mum can sleep or No Sean don't turn on the dishwasher it will upset mum. I wish.

Anyway my kids are adorable so i forgive them for screaming those words all the time but i just wish they won't!

Cheers.

25 POUNDS TO GO

Hi all,

This weight issue is becoming unbearable for me. I had 3 kids in like three years and of course that came with a huge price of about 45 pounds of weight. Okay i have managed to lose 20 pounds and everyone says i look good for a mum of three but i know what i look like when all the trendy cloths are off. Thank God for maternity style clothes that are in now. They just make everything disappear.

Anyway i go to the gym, try to eat right (very hard especially when you are home all day) but i am still struggling with losing the remaining 25 pounds. I surfed the net for real stories to motivate me and found this website that showcases real people that struggled with weight and finally lost it. Check it out. http://www.shapefit.com/success-stories.html

Cheers.

A GREAT READ

Hi all,

How could i forget to share the best book ever! I am so excited about this book. Please go out and find it. It is called "Happily married with kids. It's not a fairy tale" by Carol ummel lindquist.

This book has made me a believer again. It made me realise that i can actually find a balance amid all the chaos. Its a great read believe me.

Cheers.

A GOOD START INDEED

Hi all,

So i had a good night sleep. My baby boy Misan only woke up once at night. I got up at 7.30am feeling refreshed and hoping for a restful and peaceful day ahead. Suddenly i heard my first son Omasan screaming he had to use the bathroom. I was like oh no here we go again. Anyway i ran to his room and was greeted with the most pungent smell ever! He had pooped already!

There and and then i knew my day of hard labour had began. I then saw my daughter Igie literally shaking and i ran to her and saw she was all soaked up. Oh dear! Apparently her diaper was not well fixed. So much for a restful day. I had to clean everyone up and do the laundry immediately.

I really miss those days i could sleep in. I miss them more because i didn't cherish them well enough. If i had known what was ahead i would've relished every moment of quality sleep i had before having kid. Well this is my day so far. I hope it gets better

Cheers.

IT'S NOT EASY

Hi

I am a stay at home mum , married for 6 years with three kids. I am Nigerian but currently reside in Canada. To sum it all up, "its not easy". Its not easy to be married, to be a mum and to live in a foreign land where i am surrounded by all sorts of bias. I have been strong so far handling all life has handed me with equanimity but its not easy. My kids are ages 3,2 and 5 months old(i can almost hear you gasp). To say i am overloaded is putting it mildly. And to add to that load, is the overwhelming expectation of perfection from friends and family. I am sick of it! Life is not perfect and i don't think we should be ashamed to acknowledge our weakness and struggles as mothers and wives.

You know it would have been perfect if our mums had lectured us on how arduous marriage and motherhood really is instead of nagging us to get married and start having babies the moment we say i do. At least then we would have made informed decisions. Truth is i am grateful for my life, my marriage and kids but i am just saying the reality is so far from what most of us expected.

I have created this blog to let it all out. To document my challenges as a wife and mum. I know there are alot of people like me out there and i hope you will share yours too.

Cheers.